I am not a parent by choice. But do respect and admire those that are parents and do an exceptional job at being a parent.
I have come across a very well written and thought provoking article from the New York Times titled What Knitting Can Teach Us About Parenting by Perri Klass, M. D. that is written for not only parents, but us non-parents as well. In the article, Perii Klass, M. D. writes the following:
So I could draw the obvious conclusion here, which all you knitters (and crocheters) will probably have leapt to long ago: Is it possible that knitting makes us nicer (knicer?) while child rearing makes us crankier and more critical?
There’s an awful lot of public shaming that goes on around being a parent, and I’m not just talking online — or even in the doctor’s office.
And when you’re out in the world with a small child, you know people are looking at you, and you know some of it isn’t kindly. Some parents are so apologetic about their babies’ potential for acting like babies on flights that they hand out goody bags to their fellow passengers in hope of averting adult anger and disapproval. But you remember that terrible trip when your own child was screaming on the plane much more distinctly than the many trips when it was someone else’s kid.
Most of us writhe inside when a child acts up in a restaurant, but we don’t really expect the parents to go table to table murmuring, “She’s usually great in restaurants, and that’s why we came so early and we chose this place because it is so clearly not a fancy place where people might come for romantic dinners.”
Tantrums in the toy store — been there. Noise at the library, meltdown in the mall, you name it.Of course, since I am not a parent, I dread being anywhere in public where a young child has a major meltdown/tantrum, especially in a restaurant, movie theater, on an airplane or train, etc. But you learn to deal with the situation the best you can. In most cases, it isn't the child's fault they are acting up and the parents are doing the best they can to deal with the situation.
The take away for me from reading the entire article is that parents shouldn't fear/feel shame taking their children in public because they worry about their children having meltdowns/tantrums. It's going to happen at some point, right? It's just a rite of passage.
And for the rest of us, please refrain from negative comments or sour faces at the poor parents having to deal with the meltdowns/tantrums at that moment.